REVENGE IS A SEDUCTIVE LITTLE BITCH

The sound of The Foreign Exchange serenades my office. Then there’s me: completely relaxed, sitting at my desk sipping on a cup of green tea in an almost nirvana like state. My thoughts replay the events and emotions of my day as I randomly burst into laughter.

Not a chuckle, but like an “I’m watching Martin Lawrence: You So Crazy stand up” laugh……smh… Revenge. What the hell is revenge exactly? Merriam-Webster says its “retaliation; an opportunity to gain satisfaction for wrongs done” It’s like “getting even” if you will…So say if you stole my jacket and I steal your shoes, we’re even right? We’ve both experienced a loss, revenge was served, right? Ooh, if it were only that simple my friends!

Generally when a person is wronged, tit for tat is NOT enough. The person initially wronged wants to “up the ante” because the feelings felt are NEVER equal. The sensation you get is undeniable when revenge offers you a sweet allure and seduces you into thinking “since I’m hurt or I’m embarrassed or I was fooled, I’m going to make them feel how I feel, I’m gonna make them feel ashamed about themselves or I’m gonna make them see the consequences of their actions in public." Trust me, I know the feeling all too well but at some point in your life you have to raise the question “How does me feeling SO good about getting revenge on another person make ME look?” Stupid, that’s what! You are pretty much saying with your ACTIONS “Hey, YOU can’t do that to me!” Well guess what? Someone JUST did! Please believe the satisfaction of revenge is SO INSTANT. Once the smoke settles and the peanut gallery moves on to the next public drama, the truth of the matter is that you’re STILL hurt, you’re STILL offended and you STILL feel EVERYTHING you felt BEFORE retaliating, so why even waste your fucking time? Ultimately, you’re gonna end up RIGHT back at the place you started from, cruising down Looking Dumb Boulevard! Trust. Experience was my greatest teacher…

It’s evident that men feel with their pride and ego and women feel with their emotions. When men feel violated or “stunted on” they feel as if their man hood was compromised, so they aim to “stunt” harder, get MORE bitches than the next dude and a mixture of a whole bunch of other superficial bullshit. However, when a woman’s feelings are hurt, the act of revenge can eclipse any thought or act she could ever imagine she would do. Just look at Steve McNair. He was a football star, happily married with children; wanted to gas up a side bitch and look what happened;

She KILLED that nigga AND herself! All because her “feelings” were hurt. Smh… Revenge is NOT sweet, it’s bitter! The issue with revenge is that it plants a nasty little seed that gives off a nasty little blossom. We ALL know bitter bitches and brothas when we see one. You know, the chick or dude who months or even years later, is STILL reciting the evils done to them by someone else, and still telling the tale of what they did in return. Feelings fester when we do not deal with them directly. We may not see it, but the people around us certainly do.

So, to shorten a blog I could perpetuate profusely, peeps you have to be more aware of your actions and reactions towards people. Be confident that what a person puts out into the universe, they will get back, both good and bad. Note to chicks: quit tryna create a person’s Karma because “you mad”. In due time, all the stars will align and God will present the master design of Karma to an individual so profound, they will be forced to grow and learn from it. I am a living testament. Don’t be SO salty that you allow yourself to get enticed by revenge’s sweet nectar. Be easy. Be wise. Desire growth. Practice maturity. Love.

*sits back, pops popcorn and watches the karma induced adaptation of a man*

WOMEN: 911 EMERGENCY!!

Ok, I am CONVINCED the milk has gone bad and people have gone MAD! A few days ago at the salon, I came across a flyer with photos of curvy models in scantily clad clothing and bikinis. Nothing too out of the norm right? Clearly, this flyer represented a party or an event, right? Wrong!! The heading stated in bold letters: MODELS ON THE MOVE: Building Self-Respect 1 Young Lady at a Time! What the fuck! Ok, let me get this straight, a group of video/magazine models (not super/fashion models) got together and came up with the idea to start a program to mentor young girls about having self-respect and confidence???? Who is in charge of putting “oxy-moron” in the Kool-Aid these days? There is NO way these women think parents will sign their kids up to be a part of a program about self-respect, TAUGHT by women who objectify themselves for a living, right? How can you teach young girls how to represent themselves respectfully when you CURRENTLY advertise yourself for money so men can purchase and disrespect your image? Say it aint so! Use your program to give back to charities or communities NOT our innocent baby girls! They need to see that there are MORE options in life than displaying their cute face or perky breast or phat ass to the masses. Parents, would you want THIS woman advising your impressionable daughter about ANYTHING?





Didn’t think so.
This catastrophe of an idea and program prompted the question in my brain: How the hell will women evolve in the future? Have we given up our power when we conformed into the new “us”? Are we as women the reason today’s average man won’t settle down with just one woman?






The new independent woman is all about her money, her career and being in control of almost EVERY aspect of her life. That’s all great but has that drive to attain all of the above destroyed our sensibility, respectable boundaries and undeniable but unspoken power over these men and ourselves? It seems like we as women have opted for enhancing our beauty and body parts versus our knowledge and wisdom. Pretty over personality? Really? More women have become more inviting with their sex and sexuality, that it kills the fantasy for men. These bastards are greedy as hell and it’s OUR fault! Our sexual enigma and our pussy is our power and the more we offer visually and physically, with NO substance behind it, the more we LOSE that power. And I’m just throwing it out there, but I think we losing like a muhfucka! We’ve ALL made the mistake of giving it up too soon (either we wanted the strings or not), stayed with a dude that treated us wrong or doing things that didn’t really display the character you “thought” you had. However, we can’t re-gain control and win back our power over them by playing the game their way. I’m 27 and I only have 2 girlfriends that are married or have a good man and I KNOW the others are good women. But they fucked up by giving their dudes too much freedom and too much control over the direction and progress of the relationship. (I’m in that bunch by the way). Men HAVE to be groomed. If we give them too much rope they ARE gonna hang themselves. We have created this overall fun, exciting and sexual image of ourselves as woman today. Not saying we can’t be true to that but trying to maintain that image instead of setting boundaries of respect and elevating his overall relationship experience will leave you fucked every time. Your antics will become boring to him and he will replace you with a similar rendition of you, who will also get replaced eventually.


Moral of the story: If we keep going at the rate we are going a REAL WOMAN will only be able to be found in a MUSEUM! Respectable women have the power over themselves, their image and their relationships with men. Display the image you want the world to receive. If you enjoy being objectified, its all love. Just stay in your place and be used as the tool you are and nothing more. If you want more, treat your sex/body like a Faberge Egg. Don’t lose your luster by giving it out/advertising to the undeserving or unappreciative. It’s never too late to re-arrange your path. Only women who are TRULY GOOD WOMEN can change a player/pimp into a GOOD MAN. And if you’ve never had the pleasure of assisting in such a task, point a finger to the mirror. #MESSAGE! Lol…Aye, and if any of u know the chicks behind the Models on the Move organization, guide them here. Thaaannnnkkks!